Peace of Mind

What defines strength?

The perseverance of struggling to find hope? The constant self-pep talks? The ability to help others in any condition? The state of mind you put yourself in when you are going through rough times?


To be able to conquer your weaknesses you must find them first. Some are hidden behind your strengths, some are in plain sight, and some stitch their way through every thought, sight, and feeling. Weakness can play tricks with your mind, hoping they can make you believe that they are apart of who you really are, and they will take power that very second you fall in defeat.

In all the people I have helped I've noticed they all have one thing in common. The belief of succumbing to their weakness is the only relief. Diving into a more personal note, this use to be my exact thought. The feeling of finally giving in, because nobody else understands the constant battle. The   internal battle with your mind takes a lot of effort to mask over. To simply smile or even to speak takes energy that you barely have. The sorrow is painted prominently in your eyes but nobody really takes time to look. I read yesterday on when a person laughs too much, even on stupid things, usually means that person is sad deep inside. Which, of course, made me laugh because that's exactly how I am. The coping mechanism to our problems, in most cases, reacts in the opposite way we are feeling. By saying that I laugh too much could mean that instead of crying all the time I just laugh in order to make myself believe I am okay. For someone who likes to know how everyone else is doing and caring deeply for others, is their way of providing some relief to their thoughts instead of venting to everyone. Just like for people who have anxiety issues, their way of providing relief include things like: constant scratching, moving, bitting nails, and even fast breath rate. I know this may not apply to everyone, but given my background and study in psychology these are the most common coping mechanisms.

Therefore, to be truly feel strong you must make your weaknesses your strengths. This will define your strength of mind. The ability to pick yourself back up again and keep picking yourself up until you have made your feet like cement and your mind like the sky. It wasn't easy for me and I can guarantee it won't be easy for you. Instead of fighting with your mind all time, start working with it. It will take time and a heck of a lot perseverance, but it is worth it. To create a more stabile mind set and clear up some personal obstacles will be your kick start in finding the real you.

" To be able to conquer peace of mind you must fall to the greatest sorrows and know you are always stronger than what they say."

- Alayna